An Extremely Effective Way To Hold Yourself Accountable To Your Routines

In what ways are you holding yourself accountable to your routines? In this episode of the Routine and Things Podcast, I share a super simple but extremely effective way to hold yourself accountable starting now. You may already be doing this one thing, but the question is are you doing it enough? Sticking to your routine requires action, consistent action. Listen in to today’s episode to make it much more possible to maintain the routines you start!

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Ashley Brown 0:00
[Intro] Routines my absolute favorite word, but you either love them or you're working on getting there. But either way, I strongly believe routines can be a springboard for improving your home, yourself and your life. I'm Ashley Brown, and this is the Routine and Things Podcast. In each episode, I'll share practical tips and simple ways to help you consistently live your happiest life, one routine at a time. Trust me, you're going to want to keep listening, because you're well on your way to getting and staying happy.

Ashley Brown 0:49
Before we get into today's episode, have you ever wondered which routine is the best for you to start right now? If you are unsure of which routine will best meet the needs of your home and life at this very moment, you now have a way to find out. I've created for you a very simple and free routine assessment that will help you identify which routine you really need most right now. To take this quick assessment that will point you in the right direction and get you started with the right routine, click the link in the show notes or head to Alright, let's go ahead and get into today's episode.

Ashley Brown 1:26
Hey, and welcome back for another episode of the Routine and Things Podcast. In today's episode, I'm going to be sharing with you an extremely effective way to hold yourself accountable to your routines. And I wanted to do this episode because one of the things that is frequently mentioned in the Routine and Things community is that you all have a hard time sticking to your routine. And I don't think that that's anything that I didn't realize because even for myself, just in life, right, sometimes we can get off track and sticking to something and creating habits and flows and routines that keep going going going isn't an easy feat, it isn't something that's going to happen overnight. So I'm so excited to share with you how holding yourself accountable can really help with sticking to your routines.

Ashley Brown 2:28
So I'm so excited to talk about this today I'm going to be sharing one really effective way, it's something that I constantly do on a day by day, week by week, month by month basis. That has totally helped me in sticking to my routines and holding myself accountable to my routines and my home routines, my family routines. This tip I'm going to share with you today, although is really simple. It is super effective. And I want for you to listen up. And another thing that I want to share is you probably do this already, what I'm going to share with you today you probably do, but maybe you're not doing it enough. So stay tuned, I'm gonna share with you what that is.

Ashley Brown 3:15
But first, I want to talk about what is accountability. And I looked this up because I don't know the standard definition, I just have my own definition for it. So I wanted to make sure that it matched what I was thinking and it did. But the actual definition says the fact or condition of being accountable responsibility. That is the standard definition. And so for example, how I think about this is if you are accountable to someone for something that you do, or if you are accountable for something that you want to do, you are responsible for it and must be prepared to justify your actions to either yourself or that person. So let me say that again. If you are accountable to someone, or if you're accountable to yourself for something that you do, then you are responsible for it and must be prepared to justify your actions to that person or yourself. So it's basically how can you justify either you did it or you didn't do it? And are you justifying that to yourself? Or are you justifying that to someone else, and that is what accountability is. And accountability is so great to hold you to your routines and can really help to keep those routines going. Because we don't like to break promises to ourselves and we don't like to break promises to anyone else, especially when there wasn't a true justification as to why it didn't happen. Right? That's when we start to feel a little bit uneasy because we're like, I could have done this but I didn't do it and why didn't I do it?

Ashley Brown 4:53
And holding yourself accountable is not about beating yourself up. Okay, I want to stop you right there is not about beating yourself up, it is about taking ownership of the actions that you either did do or didn't do. That's all it's about. So you don't have to beat yourself up. If you are not holding yourself accountable to your routines at the current moment. It's all about taking ownership and then doing something about it. And so that's why you're listening to this today. So I want to share something else with you that I think is important to mention here. And that is, of course, you can have other people hold you accountable. Right? Yes, you can do that. But in this episode, I'm talking specifically about how you can hold yourself accountable, because I feel as if it is something valuable about you being able to be accountable to you, not to nobody else, because the thing is, when we look for others to hold us accountable, or when we're looking to others to hold us accountable, what if that person isn't there to hold us accountable, then what's going to happen next, we're probably going to quickly fall off the bandwagon, we're probably going to quickly stop doing our routine.

Ashley Brown 6:09
For example, maybe you get up and do a routine right now. Because if you didn't, it would affect your children, or it'll affect your spouse. So you go ahead and do it, because it'll affect the family. But what you have started to do is attach accountability to your children or to your partner. And that's what's driving you to do your routine. That is not the best pattern that you want to get into. Because like I said, those people may not always be around, when your children start to get older, and they're doing things for themselves, then how are you going to be held accountable, when your spouse is gone, and they're not there to be like, but you forgot to do this, what's going to happen then? Don't get into the pattern of having other people hold you accountable, or attaching accountability to another person. Don't do that, because that is a sure way for you to get stuck. And then you're gonna stop doing your routine. And then you just gonna start feeling like why I'm back to feeling stressed and life feels chaotic. So that's why I'm sharing with you today a really effective way that you can hold yourself accountable. Because I want to empower you to hold yourself accountable, you're going to be more likely to have success with your routines, and that power is yours and not someone else's. Keep your power. So that's why this episode is all about you. How can you hold yourself accountable? Let's get into it.

Ashley Brown 7:40
So the extremely effective way to hold yourself accountable when it comes to your routines, and staying on track with them and keeping them is reminders. Let me say it again, reminders. Because like I said, you probably do this, you probably have reminders that you have that keep you or at least try to keep you on track with your routine. But you probably don't have enough of them. So I'm going to be sharing with you what are the range of reminders that you can have. So you can start using them. Because when it comes to you not doing a routine, one of the things that you're going to potentially say, after you were super tired is you forgot, or you didn't have what you needed in order to do that routine. That's what's going to come out of your mouth so I want you to know right now after you listen to today's episode, you can't use those reasons anymore that you forgot because with these reminders, you are not going to forget. And with these reminders you are going to have what you need in order to do that routine. I'm just saying. So let's go ahead and get into what these reminders are.

Ashley Brown 8:52
So the first one is visual reminders of things that are visually within eyesight for you so that can be things like post its, you can have morning routine written on there. You can have 'do my morning routine', you can have the actual steps of your morning routine. It doesn't matter which routine you're talking about here. Just write it on a post it note putting it on your bathroom mirror, putting it on the back of your bathroom door, putting it on your refrigerator, putting it on whatever you are going to go frequently day to day. That's where you want to place this. Okay, also putting it in your calendar. If you have a calendar that's up in your home. If you have a calendar on your laptop, especially if you work from home now or you just have been working from home. Putting this on, as a screensaver on your computer. Beautiful reminder. Your phone is a great reminder. The screensaver on your phone, maybe typing out your routine and placing it as a screensaver. Writing out your routine on a piece of paper taking a photo, putting that as a screensaver on your phone. These visual reminders are so great. You can also have alerts and reminders pop up on your phone, visual alerts and visual reminders. So you may have the reminders app on your phone, you may have when you can turn on notifications with your calendar so that you can see them pop up on your phone. Those are all visual reminders.

Ashley Brown 10:24
Another type of visual reminder is that items that you are going to use in your routine, putting them within eyesight can be really beautiful. So if you are journaling for a morning routine, or a bedtime routine and placing that journal out on your pillow. Not having it up under two stacks of books. Putting it within plain eyesight. Having your workout clothes laid out downstairs so that you can put them on and start working out. Having your food in the refrigerator that is visible for you so that you can actually eat the food that you cook instead of putting it in a container that you can't even see what's in there so you forget. Like this can help you keep your routines going.

Ashley Brown 11:08
Another reminder is auditory reminders, auditory reminders, and that is things like alarms, and alerts. So of course, you can set alarms, for your routines, if you have like a time of day, itdoesn't have to be a specific time. If you have a general time of day, you want to do your routine to set your alarm for that timeframe, that's when you're going to do that routine. Alerts that ping your phone, make sure your phone is off of silent, if it can be. Having alets that ping, you hear that noise that Ding, you know, that is your routine. And things like that can really be helpful. Because not only are you going to get the visual reminder for that, you're also going to get the auditory reminder. And this just makes the connection for you to get up and do that routine a lot more deeper, when you have a range of reminders that you are using to help you stay on track and to hold yourself accountable.

Ashley Brown 12:10
And the last type of reminder is a psychological reminder, I believe that psychological reminders are a really great way for you to hold yourself accountable. And an example is making a promise to yourself. Making a promise to you, that is a psychological reminder. Because once you say to your mind, I'm gonna do this, we are more likely to do it. Because we don't want to let our own selves down. We don't want to lose trust within us. And so we are more likely to do something because we made this promise to ourselves. And it has to be a verbal promise that you are making to yourself. Many times when we will promise to do something for us or promise ourselves something we are twice as likely to fulfill whatever we said we would do, because we have promised ourselves that and we don't want to break our own trust. So that can be a really great way for you to stick to your routines for you to hold yourself accountable to your routines is to make a promise to yourself. And anytime you make a promise to yourself, and you fulfill that promise, you know what happens, you increase your confidence, and you increase your consistency. Every single time you make a promise to yourself, you fulfill it, that is what you are doing. So this is a huge way for you to hold yourself accountable to your routines and keep them going. It is so beautiful, because it'll just continue to increase your confidence continue to increase your consistency. And before you know it, your routines are going to be so second nature, you don't have to think about them much.

Ashley Brown 13:47
And so when you're making a promise to yourself, it can be a verbal promise. Like you promise that you're going to do something you say that out loud. Or it can even be writing something down in your planner. in your planning notepad, on a sheet of paper and putting it up on the wall. That can also be a promise to yourself. Psychological reminders are bomb as well. And I love any type of reminder because I'm telling you, no longer will you be saying, Oh, I forgot. Or no longer will you be saying Oh, I didn't have what I needed for that. Nope, because you're gonna have a whole bunch of reminders around you. So I challenge you today to start to use more reminders. Maybe you have a few that you use right now. What are some more visual reminders that you can put in place with your routines? What are some auditory reminders that you can put in place? Can you begin to make promises to yourself that will help to hold you and ground doing your routines. And this also works really well with your children's routines to add in visual reminders for them. Auditory reminders are so beautiful. So I hope that this was helpful for you.

Ashley Brown 14:56
Last but not least, I'm going to share some routine wisdom with you before you leave and you go on to have a really, really beautiful day. And that routine wisdom is 'accountability strengthens consistency'. When you can hold yourself accountable, you can be consistent with your routines. Begin to hold yourself accountable, begin to have reminders all around you, so that you can continue with the routines that you have started, with the routines you currently have that are adding to and benefiting your life in such an amazing way. So let me say that again, 'accountability strengthens consistency', that is your routine wisdom and hold on to that.

Ashley Brown 15:40
Alright, so that's it for today. I hope that you have a great day, continue to enjoy, wherever you are. Whatever you're doing, be sure to come back next week. And if you have not subscribed to the podcast, go ahead and subscribe. Also, if you love listening to the Routine and Things Podcast or you enjoy it and you take away things from this podcast, if you could do me a huge favor and rate and review the podcast. It is a very, very simple and quick process. And it makes a huge difference for this show. So thank you in advance for doing that. But like I said, enjoy your day and I will talk to you next week.

Ashley Brown 16:17
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