Starting Routines As A New Mom
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[Intro] Ashley Brown 0:00
Routines, my absolute favorite word, but you either love them or you're working on getting there. But either way, I strongly believe routines can be a springboard for improving your home, yourself and your life. I'm Ashley Brown, and this is the routine and things podcast. In each episode, I'll share practical tips and simple ways to help you consistently live your happiest life, one routine at a time. Trust me, you're going to want to keep listening, because you're well on your way to getting and staying happy.
Ashley Brown 0:48
Before we get into today's episode, have you ever wondered which routine is the best for you to start right now, if you are unsure of which routine will best meet the needs of your home and life at this very moment, you now have a way to find out. I've created for you a very simple and free routine assessment that will help you identify which routine you really need most right now, to take this quick assessment that will point you in the right direction and get you started with the right routine. Click the link in the show notes or head to routine and things calm.
Ashley Brown 1:20
Alright, let's go ahead and get into today's episode. Welcome back. Welcome to another episode of routine and things podcast. I'm your host, Ashley Brown. So happy that you are joining me today. Before we get into today's episode that will be helping you as a new mom start routines. I'm so excited about this episode because I get questions all the time about as a new mom, which routine Can I start or what are some routines that will help me and so I'm going to be sharing my perspective on this when it comes to routines, and being a new mom. But I do want to give a listener some love today, because you all support this show and podcast and it means the world to me. So the listener that I am giving love is Chelsea Griff 55. And Chelsea wrote "Love your voice alone is one I find soothing and fun all in one. Thanks for helping me to realize that a routine doesn't have to be rigid and uptight. But they provide structure and help you set the tone for the day. But this can be flexible. It doesn't have to be the same activity. More moms need to hear". Oh my gosh, Chelsea, thank you so much, girl, I totally appreciate you leaving this review. This is so awesome.
Ashley Brown 2:52
Because that is our mission here routine and things is to really help women and moms think outside the box when it comes to routines because routines don't have to fit into a box. And they can be freeing and flexible and fun and just the most beautiful thing in your life. So thank you so much, Chelsea. I love love, love that you shared your perspective about the podcast. Thank you so much. If you are a listener and you love this podcast, and you love the information that is shared with you, be sure to write a review you can do is very simple. If you listen on iTunes just scrolled all the way down past the episodes and it will say rate the show, or review the show and you'll be able to leave a five star rating as well as write a review and share what you love about the show what you enjoy. And you never know I just may be giving you some love one day. Let's go ahead and dive into today's episode started routines as a new mom. Oh my gosh. So beautiful. I absolutely remember becoming a new mom is so much joy and motherhood and entering into motherhood. But there's also some things that you don't expect and some things that will have you on your toes and will stretch you becoming a mom will make you grow. Let me just say that, and it will shift your perspective on life and on what you're doing in life. Let me let me share that with you too.
Ashley Brown 4:31
So so becoming a new mom, if you are about to be a new mom, or you just became a new mom, congrats. Oh my gosh, I'm so happy for you, Mama. It's gonna be a ball. It's gonna be a blast. It really is. It will come with its challenges, but I want you to focus on the goodness of being a mom. My experience with being a new mom was really I was overjoyed. And I was like, You know what, I can do this, I can be a mom. And I had a lot of help. My mom came and stayed with me for two full weeks for both pregnancies, and both babies, she stayed with us for two weeks after I had the baby. So she would cook, and she would clean and I could just focus on myself and the baby. So that was a really huge deal. And it did a lot for my recovery. I remember that. It was a lot of physical things going on with me in becoming a new mom, so I couldn't push myself to do certain things. I had an unmedicated birth, unmedicated vaginal birth. And so with that, I remember feeling like my knees were like, on fire afterwards, like my whole body was just stiff and aching. And I was like, why does it feel like I've been hit by a truck? They say that's normal, though, to feel like that. So yeah, so I mean, that experience just becoming a new mom physically was a little bit of a hurdle. But I have so much help that I recovered pretty quickly.
Ashley Brown 6:16
But in terms of having routines as a new mom, I didn't focus on having routines. As a new mom, I really didn't, I was just kind of like, seeing what came and all I knew is that I want the house to stay relatively clean. I'm not like a huge, like, clean freak, but I want it to and if you are is no shade, okay, no shade at all. I love my clean freaks. But I wasn't wanting to need my house to be squeaky clean. I just wanted things to have a place. And so I was able to keep up things and keep things a little bit organized to the extent possible. But I didn't really focus heavily on any type of routine to be perfectly honest, except my child's routine. I wanted my baby girl to be on a certain schedule. Like that was me the first time around definitely wasn't me the second time around, totally me the first time around, I wanted my baby to be on a certain schedule, I wanted her to go to bed at a certain time, I need to really share more about this in the future.
Ashley Brown 7:23
I'm not going to go off and share everything, but let me just say it didn't, it didn't work out the best. And I'll be sharing more about this a little later with you. But um, yeah, being a new mom, I wanted that routine to be down with her bedtime routine to be really solid. But I didn't really focus on any other routines. And I thought we can pressure ourselves as moms to feel like you know what I need to get back into routine so quickly. I don't think it's necessary. To be perfectly honest, I really don't enjoy the moment, enjoy the time that you have. Because you're not going to get this time back like you always hear and that you probably are hearing that and you're not. Enjoy the moment. Enjoy the time that you have with your baby, or your babies, you know, like enjoy it because trying to figure out a routine in the midst of transition, it can be a challenge. But I do want to share you know what it looks like with starting routines as a new mom. And my perspective on this.
Ashley Brown 8:28
You know, I speak about routines and how they can be super beneficial for your life and for sure they can. But if you are going to focus on routines, the only ones that I would say to focus on and to start are routines where you are loving on you, and you are loving on your baby, loving on you those self care routines, routines that nourish your body, your mind your spirit, where you can take care of you or have someone else take care of you. mindset routines like gratitude, practice journaling, oh my gosh, I'm actually going to link a new mom journal by my friend Ashley, chef, Chef Ashley chef, she came on to the podcast one time and she has a new mom journal. Because I truly believe that journaling is so much power in that, especially as a new mom, because you're gonna have a lot of thoughts going on if you don't already and I don't want you to feel alone. I want you to be able to express yourself and to get things off your chest. So I'll link that journal below. It's called New mom thoughts.
Ashley Brown 9:37
But yeah, routines that love on you that care for you. And that can be routines that deal with eating healthy foods, right that can deal with routines that deal with your mindset and making sure you're in a good mental and emotional state. That can be when you have a little movement in your routine, depending on your level of activity that could just be streching right, stretching your body, but loving on you. Those self care routines are definitely the one that you want to focus on some type of routine that cares for you. And then if you're wanting to do another type of routine, you know, always say one routine at a time. So don't try don't do both just do one or the other.
Ashley Brown 10:19
Start off with one or the other. And that is loving on your baby. So establishing a breastfeeding routine, establishing a bonding routine, like snuggles reading your baby prayer, praying with your child like those types of routines that bond you and your baby where you can love on that precious little thing that smells so good. Oh my gosh, if I could just take my little one back to when she had that baby smell is starting to wear off now. Oh my gosh, I'm so sad that baby smell is everything you cannot. It's nothing like it. So. So love on your baby and create a routine that does that. So those are only two routines I would say to focus on. Choose one, either a self care, or one where you're bonding with your baby. And if you want to
Ashley Brown 11:12
do a routine that has both of these included where you're caring for yourself and loving your baby, you can have a mommy and me morning routine that you start one that is super simple, but one that gives to you, one that gives to your baby where y'all are bonding example of this could be maybe you you get up and that's the last time that you get up right though the time in the morning where you're like, Okay, it's time to get my butt out of bed where you're not going to go straight to sleep after feeding the baby. You wake up, maybe then you breastfeed, right you breastfeed that's bonding with your baby, and then sit the baby down on the bed beside you do do a quick meditation, maybe a little bit of journaling. And then you pray or do some affirmations with your baby. It can be as simple as that like a really simple routine where you are bonding with your child loving on your child and loving on yourself. A Mommy and Me morning routine. so precious. I wish I would have done this with my babies. I wasn't in the mental space for this than.
Ashley Brown 12:21
But if I have another child, you best to believe I'm going to have a mommy and me morning routine. Your routine does not have to be the perfect outcome and it does not have to be the perfect routine. Okay. So if you're struggling to even create a mommy and me morning routine, understand that, you know it's not going to be perfect. Your baby will make noise when you are trying to meditate or journal your you may only have time to say a one minute prayer, right? Like, it may not be perfect. But as long as you are taking action with loving on you and love knowing your baby and you're doing that consistently is going to do you so much good. Don't rush into any other routines at this time. And if you can get help, get the help. Get the help accept the help willingly and graciously accept the help. Right, don't focus on cleaning the house so much.
Ashley Brown 13:20
You know, don't focus on the cooking as much, especially if you don't have to reach out, ask for help accept help. The only routine that I personally feel like that it's gonna benefit you as a new mom are routines where you are able to care for you and routines when you are caring for your child and bonding with your child, you will start to get into a flow and you will begin to adjust to being a new mom. And this is when you can start to add on other routines. You will start to feel that adjustment where you're like you're kind of settling into being a new mom, where you start to come back into your body, your hormones start to settle and that's when I feel like we start to have more of a capacity to then go into other routines that help us manage our home and manage our lives. But in the beginning, focus on you focus on the baby. That's it. That's my perspective. You know, I always say take what you like leave what you may. But I wanted to share that perspective just as being a mom of two.
Ashley Brown 14:26
So that's it for this episode. I hope you enjoyed it and took away some things. Your routine wisdom as we close things out, is don't rush into routine as a new mom. Don't do it. Try not to do it. Don't pressure yourself. Do not rush into routine as a new mom. Take your time. Feel it out, live in it. Breathe the new mom breathed that baby I love I love the new newness of baby that newness of motherhood is such a beautiful time. So, enjoy it. soak it up, remain present in it. Don't rush into routines as a new mom. That's it for this episode. If you enjoyed today, go ahead and take a screenshot and share it on social Instagram tag me at routine and things and I would love to know that you are listening. Congrats. Congrats on entering motherhood on being a new mom or about to be a new mom. It is going to be such a beautiful experience, no matter what is going to be a beautiful experience and make it that. Be sure to rate review and subscribe to the podcast and also share this episode with someone that you know is a new mom or about to be a new mom. I think this will be really really helpful for her to hear. Thank you for joining me today. I hope that you continue to enjoy wherever you are. Whatever you're doing right now, stay happy and I will talk to you next week.
[Outro] Ashley Brown 16:03
Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed today's episode, take a screenshot and share it on social I would love to know you're listening. And for tools to help you start maintain and enjoy your routines. Be sure to head to routineandthings.com. Here's to staying happy.