Which Routine Do You Need In This Season
Ashley Brown 0:00 [Intro]
Routines my absolute favorite word, but you either love them or you're working on getting there. But either way, I strongly believe routines can be a springboard for improving your home, yourself and your life. I'm Ashley Brown. And this is the routine and things podcast. In each episode, I'll share practical tips and simple ways to help you consistently live your happiest life, one routine at a time. Trust me, you're going to want to keep listening, because you're well on your way to getting and staying happy.
Ashley Brown 0:48
One of my least favorite memories as a mom happened when I was a stay at home mom. This day in particular, I had so many things to do. I was behind on laundry I needed to schedule my daughter a doctor's appointment, and the house was a mess. I mean a hot mess. And funny enough, even though it's not funny, when I got to the end of my day, nothing had been done. You know those days. Thankfully, I had a God moment and realize I have fallen out of routine. Yes, this routine oriented girl had fallen out of routine. And honestly, it took me a while to get back on track. Because routines are always naturally fallen into place for me in the past. But this was very different. I had to intentionally rebuild my routines one by one. And although it took time and patience, the impact routines had on my life was incredible. And I learned so much along the way.
Ashley Brown 1:43
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Ashley Brown 2:47
Hey, welcome back for another episode of the Routine and Things podcast. I'm your host Ashley Brown. In this episode, today, we're diving into which routine do you need in this season, and specifically talking about routines that can be helpful in different seasons of life. As you know, we all go through different seasons throughout life. One season things are good when season things are getting off track another season, things are just a straight up hot mess, like let's be all the way real. And so we are all in different seasons, and we shift through seasons. But one thing I can tell you is that routines can help you in any season of life that you find yourself in. And so today I'm gonna be sharing which routines can be helpful in which seasons of life and giving you some insight about this.
Ashley Brown 3:42
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Ashley Brown 4:55
But let's go ahead and get into things. Which routine do you need? In this season, what season are you? In? What season are you? In? What season of life? Do you find yourself in these days? I remember, one season in particular, when I was a stay at home mom, this is a season that stands out to me so vividly because it was one of the most painful seasons for me. And I think why I was so painful part of that was because I didn't think it was going to be, I thought it was going to be amazing. And it did get to the point eventually where it would, where it did feel amazing. When I was beginning, no, no, it wasn't good at all. So with that being the case, I remember just having days where I didn't know what the frick I was doing, where I felt so out of control, it was ridiculous. And this was a season that I desperately needed routine. But at the time, I didn't really know that I needed routine, like I couldn't put my finger on what I needed in that season. So I didn't even know I needed a routine. And when I finally figured out that oh is because I have fallen out of routine, I need some routines.
Ashley Brown 6:13
I didn't know where to start, I had a hard time deciding like, where the frick to start when it comes to routines, and what routines are going to best help me right now. So like I said, we're all in different seasons. And with every season though there can be routines that help you I'm going to share with you the routine categories, and then I'm going to share which seasons of life these categories could be helpful for. I hope you find this helpful, because I wish I would have had this type of insight when I was starting routine building, because if I did, it probably wouldn't have taken me so much time to get my stuff together. So So yes, so let's go ahead and break this down.
Ashley Brown 6:57
So let's start with self care routines, right? The self care bucket. So self care routines can be really helpful if you are in a season a feeling burnout, super stressed in seasons, where more attention needs to be put on your family for any given reason. So this could mean maybe you have a sick child, which if this is the case, for you know you are in my prayers, so much. So maybe your family member is going through a hard time and you have to be able to step up in this time. If you're in a season where you're not feeling like yourself, you've become unmotivated and you're feeling down, or even have gotten to the point of being depressed. A self care routine can help in seasons where you've lost touch with your wants and your needs.
Ashley Brown 7:51
Where you don't even know what fun for you is anymore. A self care routine could be great for that season. And seasons when you feel like you constantly want to drop everything and leave for a few days. Yep, self care routine can definitely support you in that season. Because I've had seasons like that for sure. When it comes to self care. Those are some indications for where this routine can be helpful for you. And those are the seasons like if you're feeling this way, and you're in this season, think about creating a self care routine for yourself. Very simple. But something where you are meeting your needs or meeting your wants and doing things that are going to replenish your mind, body and spirit can be really helpful for you. And these types of seasons where this is like the hard season, right? These are hard seasons. So that can be helpful.
Ashley Brown 8:50
Let's move on. So cooking and cleaning routines. I bunched these together, because these are things that it's like getting done, like on rotation, right cook and clean and cook and clean. And so cooking cleaning routines can be helpful in seasons where there is much transitioning happening. Because what they'll help you do is have some type of control and also being proactive and being prepared helps you when you are transitioning, because you're already trying to get used to something new and get familiar with something new. So what cooking and cleaning routines can do is help you feel like you at least are able to manage something right? That you at least have some normality in some type of way so that the transition is a bit smoother. Also in seasons where you need to be more efficient with your time and your energy. Some seasons we have little time depending on what's going on and so like especially if you're a working mom and maybe you have a job where you work 12 hours I remember as a nurse, you know I will work legitimately 14 hours and have a commute, that was like 40 minutes back and forth to work. Yeah. It wasn't fun, but you know, you do what you got to do.
Ashley Brown 10:11
So in these types of seasons, having these routines that keep you proactive and help you be efficient with your time and energy is really helpful when you have limited time, because you want to maximize the time that you have, because we're not going to get it back. So in those seasons, this can be helpful. Also, a cooking and cleaning routine can be helpful in seasons where you have a heavy mental load, and you need to decrease some of that mental load on a weekly and or daily basis. I think many times we are in this season, often of having a heavy mental load. But like legitimately certain seasons are more like this. So like, for example, if you have a if you work a full time job, and you have a business on the side, like your mental load, I'm pretty sure it's about maxed out. So these routines can help you. So at least you lessen some of that mental load on a weekly and daily basis. And lastly, these routines can help you in seasons when you're responsible for the majority of the home responsibilities. So these are examples of seasons where cooking and cleaning routines can be super beneficial for you.
Ashley Brown 11:28
Let's move on to the children's routine. So children's routines can be beneficial and extremely helpful in seasons where you are being highly and negatively impacted by your children's schedule and or lack of routine. So something that comes to mind here is sleep, your sleep is dramatically affected in a negative way. And this doesn't apply to you if you have small children. So if your children are between the ages of zero to 12 months, this doesn't apply to you because your sleep is going to be impacted. But if your children are older, you know toddlers, preschoolers and they're still not sleeping throughout the night or they're not going to bed at a decent time. That gives you enough time to decompress, and that gives them a nice enough rest at night, then this could be the season where you need some children routines where you need to better your children's routine.
Ashley Brown 12:26
Also, if you're the primary caretaker, some seasons, you may be the primary caretaker for your family, especially like if your partner travels. Or if you've recently gotten a divorce have been separated. This can be a season where you become the primary caretaker of your children. And so if that's the case, a children's routines would definitely be helpful in these seasons. Also, if you're a stay at home mom, having children's routines is definitely crucial for you because they are at home with you most of the time. And when your children don't have structure when they're at home with you most of the time, you will lose your mind. Ask me how I know. So yes, in the seasons like that where you are home? Mm hmm.
Ashley Brown 13:12
Yeah, you need those children's routines intact. And also, children's routines can be helpful in seasons where your child is acting out more. Structure can really help your child feel safer. And they can help them with behavioral issues. In some cases, right? This isn't across the board. But in some cases, it can be helpful when your child knows what to expect. It can lessen outbursts and just make them feel safe and secure. And so if you see that your child is acting out, and this is the season of life that you're in, because maybe a dramatic life change has happened and they feel out of control, then maybe having a certain routine that helps them to know what to expect and to have that structure will be helpful in this time. So those are some seasons where children's routines would be helpful.
Ashley Brown 14:07
Last but not least, is planning routines. So you know, I love a good planning routine. And I'm gonna just say this. A planning routine is helpful in every season of life. Period. But I will say two things that come to mind with planning routines. If you are in the season with where you want to improve things around your home and where you want to focus on developing a certain area in your life. A planning routine can be really helpful to steer you in the right direction, and to keep you on course, also in seasons when you're responsible for majority of the home responsibilities. Yep, a planning routine definitely helps in this season. So those are just some things to think about when it comes to planing routines. I've planned in every season in my life. Now while I say the planning was always effective, no, I didn't really learn how to plan until probably like four years ago. I didn't know how to plan.
Ashley Brown 15:12
I still got stuff done, but I don't think it was because of the way I was planning. I just think that I'm just highly disciplined is, that's why it was getting done. But yeah, so planning routines are helpful in any season. Because especially if you have an effective planning routine that actually works, then yeah, it can help you to just stay on track and to gain clarity and stay in alignment with your values, and really what matters most to you. So those are the routine buckets and seasons where those routines will be helpful for you. I hope this was really helpful for you to kind of think through that and to hear that, because I really wish I would have had this kind of breakdown. When I was a stay at home mom trying to figure out what the freak was going on. Just know that routines are here to support you in life. And no matter what season you find yourself in, you can build a routine to help you.
Ashley Brown 16:16
This breakdown is also in The Routine Building Handbook but it's done in a different way. In the book, I break it down based upon emotions, I feel like we connect to emotion so much and so heavily that I break it down legitimately by like how you're feeling and then direct you as to which routines with examples of what you could do. And the book is available for preorder right now with some really, really awesome bonuses. So to grab the book, you can go to routineandthings.com/book or click the link in the show notes to preorder today.
Ashley Brown 16:56
And your routine wisdom. Routines can support you in any season. No matter what season you're in routines are here to support you in any season and you can build the routine to support you. before you head on with your day. Be sure to rate and review the show five stars and leave a thoughtful review. I would truly appreciate it and also share this episode with someone today. Until next time, continue to enjoy wherever you are, whatever you're doing, stay happy and I will talk to you next week.
Ashley Brown 17:30 [outro]
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