In today’s episode of the Routine and Things Podcast I share a few words of wisdom to help you with mental peace and clarity at this time. If you’re feeling challenged, overwhelmed, worried, unsure, and uneasy, this is a great episode to listen to. Let’s get into it!
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Ashley Brown 0:00
In today's episode of the routine and things podcast, I share a few words of wisdom to help you with mental peace and clarity at this time. If you're feeling challenged, overwhelmed, worried, unsure, and uneasy. This is a great episode to listen to. Let's get into it girl.
Ashley Brown 0:38
Reduce daily stress and keep overwhelm at bay using the routine and things planner, our one of a kind planner merges routines and planning to help you get organized and stay organized. You'll build and incorporate routines into your life little by little. And using the signature of routine block planning method you will organize your weekly tasks and so for routine categories to maintain a strong foundation for your home and your life. The things that typically get lost in the day to day shuffle will now be brought to the forefront every single week, which will help you lessen stress and avoid becoming overwhelmed. To get your very own routine and things planner. Be sure to head to routine and things.com or click the link in the show notes.
Ashley Brown 1:25
Hey, welcome back for another episode of the routine and things podcast. I'm your host, Ashley, and welcome back. If you are a new listener, welcome, welcome. Welcome. I'm so happy you're here. And if you are Oh gee, girl, I am so thankful. Thank you for being here. I am really grateful to be able to speak on a few things today that I think will be very insightful and helpful for you as you navigate life. This is a topic that I love to discuss. It's about mental peace, and clarity, things that I strive to have a part of my life, things that I think are very necessary and needed for us as we navigate this thing called life on a day to day basis. And so I'm really hoping that you will take a lot from this episode and be able to implement some of the things in your life.
Ashley Brown 2:17
But before we get into today's episode, I wanted to share that the routine and things planner is available for you are right now at routine things.com. This planner is the bomb.com it is really helpful in allowing you to get and stay organized by merging planning and routines and one. So one thing that I love about this planner is you're able to create a routine each quarter and slowly implement that routine and incorporate it into your life over time. And you will be able to keep track of this routine and make sure that you are continuing to do the routine. Slowly but surely. And definitely by the end of the quarter it will be integrated into your life but also is helping you to keep those routines that are really needed top of mind in your day to day and then your week to week. And so it houses the routine block planning method, which is a really simple yet powerful planning method for organizing your weeks and is very super duper helpful. So if you want to learn more about the routine and things plan or what other women have had to say about the planner, you can do so by going to routine and things.com or by clicking the link in the show notes. I hope that you check it out.
Ashley Brown 3:41
But let's go ahead and get into today's episode, which is on mental peace and clarity and some things that can really be helpful to get to this point. Maybe you are feeling overwhelmed or challenged or stressed and worried, uneasy, unsure if you are feeling any of these things just know you're not alone. We are in a time right now that is very hard to be honest, not just in our inner worlds, right? Because we have our inner world that things that we're navigating day by day, but also being affected by what's going on in our outer world, right what's going on other people's lives in other countries. Even the people's lives there are in our personal lives. And so all of that sometimes can build and can we I think that we sometimes don't realize how much that impacts us in our own lives. And so for whatever reason, you may be feeling like you don't have mental peace or clarity. Just know you're not alone and know that you can take action towards slowly but surely getting there. And yes, it takes time and it takes effort. But it's doable, and you got this. So I'm going to share what has been helpful in my life with what continues to be helpful in my life and some things for you to think about some insight for you when it comes to trying to get to that place of having peace, mental peace, mental clarity in your life. And so the first thing that I want to share is that you.
Ashley Brown 5:20
The first thing is more so around this thought of coming into acceptance of what is and coming to acceptance, that some things in life are going to be a constant. And what I mean by this is, I think that for some of us, we can become very stressed and overwhelmed, because things never stop. It's always one thing after another after another is always something to do. And then another thing to do. And then another thing to do, and feeling as if we're never getting to the end of a to do list. And here's the thing, we're never going to get to an end of any to do list, because there are always going to be things that are coming up there are going to be constant in our lives. You know, one of those things I think about right now is like feeding ourselves and our families, oh my gosh, I mean, every single day, we have to think about what to eat, right. And so just think about that for a second. And it's multiple things like that in our lives that are just consistently coming up, day by day by day by day. And we're not going to be able to turn those things off. And I think for some of us, that can be overwhelming. But if we can come into acceptance that it is what it is, which I feel like many times come into acceptance for me has come through meditation has come through prayer has come through even releasing control, which I'm about to talk about next. But just accepting that this is just the way life is if this is the way you want to live life, right, because that's another question. You can live life however you want to live life. But if you want to live life in a certain way, then come into acceptance of some things are just going to be a constant. And it's okay. And you're not going to get to the end of your to do list because there's always going to be something added on. And that's okay, too. What it's about is just managing your life in a way that feels good. Being able to stay on top of certain things, and not everything. And that's okay, too. So that's the first thing I want to share.
Ashley Brown 7:41
The second thing is releasing control, especially releasing control of things you can't control like we can't control people. Sorry, we can't, you know what I mean. And this even includes our kids, we think that we have control of our kids. And to a certain extent we do. But at the end of the day, we can't even control our children to a certain extent because there are people with their own minds in their own agendas in their own insight in their own experiences, in their own feelings, that when we try to keep control of things that we can't control, it only creates more chaos and confusion, and overwhelm. So if there's something in your life right now that you're trying so hard to control, because you feel like if you don't have control over it, life isn't going to feel as good know that life doesn't feel as good because that is the thought that you have, that this control is needed in order for life to feel good. And I'm here to tell you it's not. I've been there done that even in currently in my life, I'm still working through how to release control. And at the end of the day, it isn't helpful when we are trying to control things are outside of our control.
Ashley Brown 9:00
People are outside of our control, certain aspects of life are outside of our control. And so when when we can grasp that concept and start to lean into that and start to release slowly, because it doesn't have to be an abrupt release. It can be a steady release a slow release of something. And this takes time and it takes mental work and thought working intention to release control. But it's doable. And it can be done it can be done so release control or whatever it is that you feel like you're trying to control when you know right now that is outside of your control. Your children getting sick. God forbid our kids getting sick if you have kids or if you have pets or if you have family members that live with you. People in your life getting sick, you can't control. You can't. So then we have to learn how to navigate that even though sometimes it can put a bit of strain on parts of our life.
Ashley Brown 10:02
We have released control it is what it is, how are we going to navigate from here moving forward, now that this is in play? What can I do to keep grounded, to keep my head leveled, to still move in a way that feels good with grace and with ease. So releasing control is big, to help with mental peace, especially with that mental peace part, also to help with clarity as well.
Ashley Brown 10:30
Next, let's talk about gratitude. Oh, gratitude is so awesome. Because what it really helps you to do is ground yourself. When there is a lot of mental chaos or confusion or overwhelm, what can be really helpful with this is to lean into gratitude and remain grateful and be able to not even just remain grateful, remaining thankful. But being able to spot what you're thankful for being able to recognize what you are grateful for in your life, to the smallest thing that you can put your feet on the floor and take a deep breath. Some people can't do that. And it's not even about what some people can't do. It's about the fact that you can write, like, being able to see your children walk through the door, be able to pick them up from school and see their little smiling faces, or even if they have added so you can still see that face.
Ashley Brown 11:34
Having pride in the work that you do, maybe you have a job, that you absolutely love, a career that you love, taking pride in that and being grateful for it. Right, because having a career or a job that you absolutely love, because I know I'm in this space right now where I absolutely love what I do. And that includes routine and things as well. I absolutely love what I do as a nurse educator, but also here at routine and things. And that's a blessing. When you can love what you do, and you can get paid for it. I mean, amen to that. So remaining grateful, like I always will stop and say three things you're grateful for Ash. And I'll name them. They can be small, they can be big, it doesn't matter. I'm grateful for the people in my life, for the new connections in my life for so much, so much. So gratitude can be really helpful for mental peace.
Ashley Brown 12:43
So maybe in the mornings, when you wake up. Say three things you're grateful for before you get to bed before you put your feet on the floor. Before you start your day, three things you are grateful for. And then in your day that way as well before you lay your head on that pillow. Or as you lay your head on your pillow. Three things you're grateful for. Very, very helpful. Changed my life doing practicing gratitude changed my life.
Ashley Brown 13:12
Okay, also, I'm gonna say two other things that you have heard me talk about on this podcast or even if you haven't, this is your first time hearing me say this, listen up. Ask for help. When you feel like you don't have mental peace, extra help when you need it, even before you need it. Yes, we might be able to do a lot but we don't need to do everything and we don't need to do a lot. If we have assistance. If we can reach out for support, do that. Stop trying to take on everything yourself. It's not necessary. It's not helpful. It's not supportive of you in the life you want to live in the way you want to feel. If you want to feel good in life help us needed. help is needed. support is vital for this. So please, you're not Superwoman. Now you're super, but you're not Superwoman. So we're not going to take on everything. Okay, so extra help if you have to outsource outsource. I know I'm about to hire a cleaner really soon to come clean this house every two weeks.
Ashley Brown 14:23
And then last thing is to take care of you. Take care of you. Please. There's a lady I follow on Instagram I forgot her name for I did. I think it's Candice Denise. But she is all about self care. At the end of her videos, she always says something like Be happy, be healthy and take care of you. Because we have to take care of ourselves. If we feel like we're going to be able to navigate this thing called life. If we're going to be able to navigate in a way that feels good. You have to take care of yourself. It's about you before anybody else. Okay, move your body more. Eat more nutritious foods. Do things that bring you joy. If you're creative, get back into your creative juices, girl, let those juices flow bring more pleasure into your life. And I'm not just talking about sexual pleasure, okay? So many ways to bring pleasure into your life in a good tasty meal is pleasurable. Going outside and putting your feet on the ground and taking three deep breaths I know for me it's pleasurable you know, going on a hike and going up a mountain and looking out oh, what it does to your soul. Your now do those things that you know bring you joy.
Ashley Brown 16:03
If that's coloring in a in one of your children's coloring book, if that's going for a ride to look out and zone out, you know. Oh my God, that's going to McDonald's and getting you some french fries. And I don't know, ice cream dip in your fries, ice cream. Do what brings you joy girl in this lifetime, you got to take care of you. That's really going to help with the mental peace that you need is going to help you and stay in grounded in you. so vital. So these are some things that I want for you to think about over the course of this week and throughout life. Come back to this episode over and over and over.
Ashley Brown 16:56
I really want for you if you are in the space that you don't want to be mentally take one of these things, practice it this week. Put one of these things that I just mentioned into practice. Coming into acceptance. Meditation really helps with that. Release and control of things you can't control.It's okay let go. Let go and let God. Use gratitude to ground yourself. Three things you're grateful for morning and night. Ask for help. Now, today. Ask for help. Outsource. Get the support you need. And then take care of you girl. Take care of you. You're important to just like everything else you think is important. Everything else you deem important in your life. You are at the top of that list. You are important and we need you so take care of you. Take care of you.
Ashley Brown 18:08
I hope that this episode was helpful. I know I enjoy this episode today. It really helped me as well. Be sure to check out the routine and things planner. The New Year's coming up soon get you a plan or ask somebody else to get to the plan and be like, can you buy this planner for me holiday season is coming up. And it is currently on sale. If you type in the discount code RTFAM at checkout, you will be able to get the planner for 10% off. So that's available for you. You can check it out every 10 and things.com and purchase yours by going to the website or click the link in the show notes. Thank you for joining me today if you would leave a rating and review of the show I would greatly appreciate if you listen to iTunes. But until next time, continue to enjoy wherever you are, whatever you're doing, stay happy girl, and I'll talk to you next week.
Ashley Brown 19:06
Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed today's episode, take a screenshot and share it on social I would love to know you're listening and for tools to help you start maintain and enjoy your routines. Be sure to head to routine and things.com Here's to staying happy.
In today's episode of the routine and things podcast, I share a few words of wisdom to help you with mental peace and clarity at this time. If you're feeling challenged, overwhelmed, worried, unsure, and uneasy. This is a great episode to listen to. Let's get into it girl.
Ashley Brown 0:38
Reduce daily stress and keep overwhelm at bay using the routine and things planner, our one of a kind planner merges routines and planning to help you get organized and stay organized. You'll build and incorporate routines into your life little by little. And using the signature of routine block planning method you will organize your weekly tasks and so for routine categories to maintain a strong foundation for your home and your life. The things that typically get lost in the day to day shuffle will now be brought to the forefront every single week, which will help you lessen stress and avoid becoming overwhelmed. To get your very own routine and things planner. Be sure to head to routine and things.com or click the link in the show notes.
Ashley Brown 1:25
Hey, welcome back for another episode of the routine and things podcast. I'm your host, Ashley, and welcome back. If you are a new listener, welcome, welcome. Welcome. I'm so happy you're here. And if you are Oh gee, girl, I am so thankful. Thank you for being here. I am really grateful to be able to speak on a few things today that I think will be very insightful and helpful for you as you navigate life. This is a topic that I love to discuss. It's about mental peace, and clarity, things that I strive to have a part of my life, things that I think are very necessary and needed for us as we navigate this thing called life on a day to day basis. And so I'm really hoping that you will take a lot from this episode and be able to implement some of the things in your life.
Ashley Brown 2:17
But before we get into today's episode, I wanted to share that the routine and things planner is available for you are right now at routine things.com. This planner is the bomb.com it is really helpful in allowing you to get and stay organized by merging planning and routines and one. So one thing that I love about this planner is you're able to create a routine each quarter and slowly implement that routine and incorporate it into your life over time. And you will be able to keep track of this routine and make sure that you are continuing to do the routine. Slowly but surely. And definitely by the end of the quarter it will be integrated into your life but also is helping you to keep those routines that are really needed top of mind in your day to day and then your week to week. And so it houses the routine block planning method, which is a really simple yet powerful planning method for organizing your weeks and is very super duper helpful. So if you want to learn more about the routine and things plan or what other women have had to say about the planner, you can do so by going to routine and things.com or by clicking the link in the show notes. I hope that you check it out.
Ashley Brown 3:41
But let's go ahead and get into today's episode, which is on mental peace and clarity and some things that can really be helpful to get to this point. Maybe you are feeling overwhelmed or challenged or stressed and worried, uneasy, unsure if you are feeling any of these things just know you're not alone. We are in a time right now that is very hard to be honest, not just in our inner worlds, right? Because we have our inner world that things that we're navigating day by day, but also being affected by what's going on in our outer world, right what's going on other people's lives in other countries. Even the people's lives there are in our personal lives. And so all of that sometimes can build and can we I think that we sometimes don't realize how much that impacts us in our own lives. And so for whatever reason, you may be feeling like you don't have mental peace or clarity. Just know you're not alone and know that you can take action towards slowly but surely getting there. And yes, it takes time and it takes effort. But it's doable, and you got this. So I'm going to share what has been helpful in my life with what continues to be helpful in my life and some things for you to think about some insight for you when it comes to trying to get to that place of having peace, mental peace, mental clarity in your life. And so the first thing that I want to share is that you.
Ashley Brown 5:20
The first thing is more so around this thought of coming into acceptance of what is and coming to acceptance, that some things in life are going to be a constant. And what I mean by this is, I think that for some of us, we can become very stressed and overwhelmed, because things never stop. It's always one thing after another after another is always something to do. And then another thing to do. And then another thing to do, and feeling as if we're never getting to the end of a to do list. And here's the thing, we're never going to get to an end of any to do list, because there are always going to be things that are coming up there are going to be constant in our lives. You know, one of those things I think about right now is like feeding ourselves and our families, oh my gosh, I mean, every single day, we have to think about what to eat, right. And so just think about that for a second. And it's multiple things like that in our lives that are just consistently coming up, day by day by day by day. And we're not going to be able to turn those things off. And I think for some of us, that can be overwhelming. But if we can come into acceptance that it is what it is, which I feel like many times come into acceptance for me has come through meditation has come through prayer has come through even releasing control, which I'm about to talk about next. But just accepting that this is just the way life is if this is the way you want to live life, right, because that's another question. You can live life however you want to live life. But if you want to live life in a certain way, then come into acceptance of some things are just going to be a constant. And it's okay. And you're not going to get to the end of your to do list because there's always going to be something added on. And that's okay, too. What it's about is just managing your life in a way that feels good. Being able to stay on top of certain things, and not everything. And that's okay, too. So that's the first thing I want to share.
Ashley Brown 7:41
The second thing is releasing control, especially releasing control of things you can't control like we can't control people. Sorry, we can't, you know what I mean. And this even includes our kids, we think that we have control of our kids. And to a certain extent we do. But at the end of the day, we can't even control our children to a certain extent because there are people with their own minds in their own agendas in their own insight in their own experiences, in their own feelings, that when we try to keep control of things that we can't control, it only creates more chaos and confusion, and overwhelm. So if there's something in your life right now that you're trying so hard to control, because you feel like if you don't have control over it, life isn't going to feel as good know that life doesn't feel as good because that is the thought that you have, that this control is needed in order for life to feel good. And I'm here to tell you it's not. I've been there done that even in currently in my life, I'm still working through how to release control. And at the end of the day, it isn't helpful when we are trying to control things are outside of our control.
Ashley Brown 9:00
People are outside of our control, certain aspects of life are outside of our control. And so when when we can grasp that concept and start to lean into that and start to release slowly, because it doesn't have to be an abrupt release. It can be a steady release a slow release of something. And this takes time and it takes mental work and thought working intention to release control. But it's doable. And it can be done it can be done so release control or whatever it is that you feel like you're trying to control when you know right now that is outside of your control. Your children getting sick. God forbid our kids getting sick if you have kids or if you have pets or if you have family members that live with you. People in your life getting sick, you can't control. You can't. So then we have to learn how to navigate that even though sometimes it can put a bit of strain on parts of our life.
Ashley Brown 10:02
We have released control it is what it is, how are we going to navigate from here moving forward, now that this is in play? What can I do to keep grounded, to keep my head leveled, to still move in a way that feels good with grace and with ease. So releasing control is big, to help with mental peace, especially with that mental peace part, also to help with clarity as well.
Ashley Brown 10:30
Next, let's talk about gratitude. Oh, gratitude is so awesome. Because what it really helps you to do is ground yourself. When there is a lot of mental chaos or confusion or overwhelm, what can be really helpful with this is to lean into gratitude and remain grateful and be able to not even just remain grateful, remaining thankful. But being able to spot what you're thankful for being able to recognize what you are grateful for in your life, to the smallest thing that you can put your feet on the floor and take a deep breath. Some people can't do that. And it's not even about what some people can't do. It's about the fact that you can write, like, being able to see your children walk through the door, be able to pick them up from school and see their little smiling faces, or even if they have added so you can still see that face.
Ashley Brown 11:34
Having pride in the work that you do, maybe you have a job, that you absolutely love, a career that you love, taking pride in that and being grateful for it. Right, because having a career or a job that you absolutely love, because I know I'm in this space right now where I absolutely love what I do. And that includes routine and things as well. I absolutely love what I do as a nurse educator, but also here at routine and things. And that's a blessing. When you can love what you do, and you can get paid for it. I mean, amen to that. So remaining grateful, like I always will stop and say three things you're grateful for Ash. And I'll name them. They can be small, they can be big, it doesn't matter. I'm grateful for the people in my life, for the new connections in my life for so much, so much. So gratitude can be really helpful for mental peace.
Ashley Brown 12:43
So maybe in the mornings, when you wake up. Say three things you're grateful for before you get to bed before you put your feet on the floor. Before you start your day, three things you are grateful for. And then in your day that way as well before you lay your head on that pillow. Or as you lay your head on your pillow. Three things you're grateful for. Very, very helpful. Changed my life doing practicing gratitude changed my life.
Ashley Brown 13:12
Okay, also, I'm gonna say two other things that you have heard me talk about on this podcast or even if you haven't, this is your first time hearing me say this, listen up. Ask for help. When you feel like you don't have mental peace, extra help when you need it, even before you need it. Yes, we might be able to do a lot but we don't need to do everything and we don't need to do a lot. If we have assistance. If we can reach out for support, do that. Stop trying to take on everything yourself. It's not necessary. It's not helpful. It's not supportive of you in the life you want to live in the way you want to feel. If you want to feel good in life help us needed. help is needed. support is vital for this. So please, you're not Superwoman. Now you're super, but you're not Superwoman. So we're not going to take on everything. Okay, so extra help if you have to outsource outsource. I know I'm about to hire a cleaner really soon to come clean this house every two weeks.
Ashley Brown 14:23
And then last thing is to take care of you. Take care of you. Please. There's a lady I follow on Instagram I forgot her name for I did. I think it's Candice Denise. But she is all about self care. At the end of her videos, she always says something like Be happy, be healthy and take care of you. Because we have to take care of ourselves. If we feel like we're going to be able to navigate this thing called life. If we're going to be able to navigate in a way that feels good. You have to take care of yourself. It's about you before anybody else. Okay, move your body more. Eat more nutritious foods. Do things that bring you joy. If you're creative, get back into your creative juices, girl, let those juices flow bring more pleasure into your life. And I'm not just talking about sexual pleasure, okay? So many ways to bring pleasure into your life in a good tasty meal is pleasurable. Going outside and putting your feet on the ground and taking three deep breaths I know for me it's pleasurable you know, going on a hike and going up a mountain and looking out oh, what it does to your soul. Your now do those things that you know bring you joy.
Ashley Brown 16:03
If that's coloring in a in one of your children's coloring book, if that's going for a ride to look out and zone out, you know. Oh my God, that's going to McDonald's and getting you some french fries. And I don't know, ice cream dip in your fries, ice cream. Do what brings you joy girl in this lifetime, you got to take care of you. That's really going to help with the mental peace that you need is going to help you and stay in grounded in you. so vital. So these are some things that I want for you to think about over the course of this week and throughout life. Come back to this episode over and over and over.
Ashley Brown 16:56
I really want for you if you are in the space that you don't want to be mentally take one of these things, practice it this week. Put one of these things that I just mentioned into practice. Coming into acceptance. Meditation really helps with that. Release and control of things you can't control.It's okay let go. Let go and let God. Use gratitude to ground yourself. Three things you're grateful for morning and night. Ask for help. Now, today. Ask for help. Outsource. Get the support you need. And then take care of you girl. Take care of you. You're important to just like everything else you think is important. Everything else you deem important in your life. You are at the top of that list. You are important and we need you so take care of you. Take care of you.
Ashley Brown 18:08
I hope that this episode was helpful. I know I enjoy this episode today. It really helped me as well. Be sure to check out the routine and things planner. The New Year's coming up soon get you a plan or ask somebody else to get to the plan and be like, can you buy this planner for me holiday season is coming up. And it is currently on sale. If you type in the discount code RTFAM at checkout, you will be able to get the planner for 10% off. So that's available for you. You can check it out every 10 and things.com and purchase yours by going to the website or click the link in the show notes. Thank you for joining me today if you would leave a rating and review of the show I would greatly appreciate if you listen to iTunes. But until next time, continue to enjoy wherever you are, whatever you're doing, stay happy girl, and I'll talk to you next week.
Ashley Brown 19:06
Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed today's episode, take a screenshot and share it on social I would love to know you're listening and for tools to help you start maintain and enjoy your routines. Be sure to head to routine and things.com Here's to staying happy.