Life Changing Tips To Alleviate Stress and Overwhelm

Are you feeling stressed in this season of life? Maybe you’re feeling totally overwhelmed. Trust me, I’ve been there and the last thing I want is for you to stay there. In this episode of the Routine and Things Podcast, I share a few life changing tips to alleviate stress and overwhelm right now. Tune in to hear what I have to say about this. It’s definitely one you don’t want to miss.
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Ashley Brown 0:00
Are you feeling stressed in this season of life? Maybe you're feeling totally overwhelmed. Trust me, I've been there and the last thing I want is for you to stay there. In this episode of the routine and things podcast I share a few life changing tips to alleviate stress and overwhelm right now, tune in to hear what I have to say about this is definitely one you don't want to miss.

Ashley Brown 0:42
Back in 2018, when I was a stay at home mom struggling to manage my household and my sanity, I decided to use planning to get more organized. I went to the store I grabbed a really simple planner. When I got home, I opened it up just to stare at the lines on the page for 10 minutes. Then after some time, I decided you know what let me plan based upon the areas of my life I was constantly thinking about in managing. Long story short, I stumbled upon a new way of planning that changed the way I organized my days is called the routine block planning method, which helps you simplify your planning by organizing daily tasks into four routine categories. Self care, family, cleaning, and cooking. And lucky for you, I put together a free training that tells you all about it. In this free 15 minute video training you'll learn how to get organized using the routine block planning method. You'll learn how it works, and why is the solution to living a more organized life. To start watching head to routine and forward slash training or just click the link in the show notes. Hey, hey, welcome back for another episode of the routine and things podcast. I am your host Ashley and I'm super excited that you are back. Joining me for yet another episode. If this is your first time listening Hey girl, hey girl, hey, hopefully you're having such a beautiful day. Hopefully you're enjoying wherever you are. Whatever you're doing right now, I am enjoying myself right now. And I hope you are too. So happy that you're joining me today. In today's episode we are talking about stress and overwhelm. Specifically, I am giving you a few of my top tips for alleviating stress and overwhelm. First of all, if you are stressed, if you are super stressed, if you are overwhelmed, if you are beyond overwhelmed, I feel you and I've been there

Ashley Brown 2:42
in sometimes, you know those stressors still come in my life and I have to try to navigate them I have to be like wait, hold up. Let's do something about this. And so today, I want to share with you what I personally like to do in my life to alleviate stress. And to avoid becoming overwhelmed in my life. And so I'm really hoping that these tips are helpful for you. Before I get into today's episode, I have to share about the routine and things planner which is going to be back in stock September 25. It is almost that time. So the routine things planner is an amazing planner. I'm not just saying that because I created it. Although I did create it. And I'm super proud of myself because it is fantastic. It is helpful in helping you to get organized, not just get organized, but stay organized in your life by merging planning and routines. So it is a routine focus planner, you are able to build routines, you are able to stay on track with your routines to hold yourself accountable to your routines. But also keep top of mind those core foundational areas of your life that are going to keep coming around and around and around. And if we can maintain

Ashley Brown 3:59
tending to those areas that we know are constantly going to come up, I promise you your life is going to feel better. So if that's something that's even stressing you right now, girl, be sure that you get on the list to getting the routine and things planner, you can go to routine and forward slash plan to check out the planner is there for you. And like I said it's going to be back in stock September 25.

Ashley Brown 4:24
So when it comes to stress and overwhelm in today's episode, I want to start this episode by giving you the definitions of stress and overwhelm. I looked this up on Google you can find it there. But when I looked up the definition of stress, it says a state of mental or emotional strain or tension. And then I looked up the definition of overwhelm and it says defeat completely. Who when I read that I was like wait, hold up. We can't be defeated completely. Now hold on. Right. I don't want you to feel defeated. Come Lately, so we, you know, if you're in a state of overwhelm,

Ashley Brown 5:05
I'm going to help you today get up out of that, because I don't want you feeling defeated completely. No, that's not what you deserve in your life. And so let's talk about this today. Stress is just one thing that none of us want to feel, we understand that stressors will arise and life, things that will sometimes cause us to have stress. And stress really affects your body. It affects your mind, it affects your spirit, right, it causes harm to those areas when we are stressed. And so we really have to get to a point of understanding how to manage stress in our life, and alleviate stress in our life, so that we don't get two points of overwhelm, we don't get to a point of feeling defeated completely.

Ashley Brown 6:01
That's something that I think is really crucial, right for us to be able to do as people. Let's talk about different types of stress, right, because there's external stressors, and then there is internal stressors. And so I want to point these two things out, before I get into the tips that I have for you. Because external stressors are things we can't control, right, they are outside of our control. Like, if your child gets sick outside of your control, if your boss has an attitude outside of your control, if you get into car trouble, right, like maybe you have trouble with your tires, it's outside of your control, certain stressors, are outside of our control how people act is outside of our control, we can't control anybody else, right. And so there will be external stressors that arise. However, let's talk about internal stressors. And that comes from within, that comes from us, that comes from you. The stress that we can put on ourselves, sometimes in life, to have all the answers, to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to figure it out to try to take on everything ourselves and not extra help. The way that we even perceive stressors that are coming to us is can cause internal stress. And so I shared this with you, because it's good to know that some of the stress that you're probably dealing with right now is internal. And that you can actually change it, right. That's something you can change, you can do something about your internal stress. And so if some of your stress is coming from there, that's a huge insight for you to have so that you can work through changing and alleviating your internal stress. Okay, so let's get into today's tips. I'm going to share three tips for you, that will help you to alleviate stress and overwhelm right now. You are not alone in this is many people listen to this episode today. Trust me, I always get over

Ashley Brown 8:14
20,000 downloads. So I'm telling you, you're not the only person listening to today's episode. And you're not the only person stressed right now or feeling overwhelmed right now. And like I said, I've been there before. So that's why I'm here to really give you some assistance and just share some things with you that I think will be helpful. So the first tip and alleviating stress and overwhelm is you have to specifically identify what is causing the stress and overwhelm. That's first and foremost, we can't fix a problem. We don't know what the problem is. So I'm sharing this specifically. Because if I were to ask you right now, what is stressing you out, you're gonna go with whatever it comes to your mind first. And typically, that can be very surface level, right? Like right now if your child got sick, right, we're going, first of all, let's let me just say this, we're going into Cold Flu and COVID season. Right? CFC season is coming, honey. And we know when we especially with our smarter kids, if you have small kids, you we already know what to expect. there at some point gonna get sick with something, some type of bug some type of strain, some type of virus, they're gonna get sick.

Ashley Brown 9:39
So let's say that I actually was stressing you and you're like, Oh, my child is sick. That's what's causing me to be stressed. That's the first thing that probably comes to your mind, but it could be a deeper reason why you're actually stressed. And it could be that the stress is caused, actually by a deeper like a April reason.

Ashley Brown 10:01
So if I were to actually but why is your child being sick causing you stress? You may tell me multiple things. But let's say you tell me because I have to be out of work the next two days. Is that okay? So what is stressful about being out of work, the next two days you may tell me is because I'm going to be behind when I get back, I had a big project I'm going to be behind now. That is, was actually causing you to be stressed, not the surface, or the first thing that came to your mind. Actually, what is causing you to be stressed is the fact that you're worried and stressed about being behind on your work when you get back to work. And so I bring this up, because sometimes it is going to be the first thing that comes to your mind what's causing you stress.

Ashley Brown 10:51
However, what I have learned by working with many women is not the first thing that comes to mind. That's what's causing them stress is deeper. And we have to ask ourselves, why? Multiple times and try asking yourself that, like, when you find that you're stressed, and you're trying to identify what's causing you to be stressed. Ask yourself, but why? Why is this stressful? Why is my child being sick? Stressful? Oh, because XY and Z. I know personally, for me, for example, when my youngest daughter gets sick, what the stress really comes from, is me being scared that she's gonna have an asthma attack, because she has her asthma flares up when she's sick. Right. And so you want to ask yourself those questions, because if you can identify why you're stressed, then you can work towards alleviating that alleviating that stress by thinking about what you can do about it instead. Okay, so it's sometimes a deeper reason. And this gets into the second tip that I have for you. Right, the first tip is specifically identify what is causing the stress or overwhelm. The second tip I have for you is to put a plan in place to address the stressor.

Ashley Brown 12:08
To address what's causing the overwhelm put a plan in place, right? Once you identify what the problem is, now, let's plan on, what are we going to do about it? If you're stressed, because you're nervous or scared about you're getting behind on your work, what can you do to try to not get behind on your work? Is there anything that you can do about that? I'm gonna tell you right now, sometimes it's not anything you can do about it. And at that point, I'm going to, at that point, I'm going to share something with you in a second that you can do. But if you can put a plan in place to get the work done while you're at home with your child, then do that maybe you can work from home, maybe you can ask someone to help you with the project, right? Reach out to your manager and express to them that you're feeling a little bit stressed about not being able to get your work done. When this huge project needs to be completed on time. You can put a plan in place because what this helps your brain to do is to know what to expect, our brain does not function well when it is in the unknown. And when stressors come many times our brain goes into the unknown if we are not identifying what the stressor is, and then working towards a plan to alleviate the stressor, our brain is like well, what are we going to do about this? It's in the unknown, and it's like seriously, your brain is like freaking out. It's like, I don't know, what are we going to do? Right? That's really stressed, our brain is freaking out. And so when that's the case, what can be really helpful is to give your brain relief, allow your brain to know what to expect by putting a plan in place to alleviate the stressor.

Ashley Brown 13:57
Okay, and another thing I want to share with you about this is a part of the plan as well needs to be to relieve physical stress. Because putting a plan in place is going to help you to relieve that mental stress your brain is freaking out. But you also need to relieve physical stress because your body gets tense when you're stressed. And so we don't want to avoid releasing physical stress. We want to do something that helps with that. Whether it is exercise, like walking or doing some type of yoga or workout. Dancing can help to relieve physical stress, meditation. Maybe you just need to go out with some friends. You know, maybe drawing can help. Something that's going to help relieve physical stress going to give your body of release can be really really helpful. Okay, so that needs to be a part of the plan as well. That's the second tip, put a plan in place to address the stressor.

Ashley Brown 15:07
The last tip I want to share with you is to reframe how you think about stressors to reframe how you think about stressors, especially internal stressors that come into your life, not internal, I meant to say external. So external stressors that come into your life to reframe how you think about those, try not to view stressors as quote unquote, bad. stressors are not bad. We want to try to keep them neutral. And when I say keep them neutral, I just mean it is what it is. I say that all the time I say that. I say that all the time, say to my kids, I say to my friends, I say to my co workers, I'm like, it is what it is. It is what it is. That's how you keep it neutral. Instead of thinking that stressors are bad. No, it just is what it is, is here. This is what it is. It ain't changing is here, I can probably change it. But it is what it is for now.

Ashley Brown 16:06
For example, I had a situation where my babysitter fell through. And this happened to me twice my babysitter fell through. And I could have been like, oh my gosh, look at this my baby. So that fell through oh my god, I'm just gonna be so stressed. No, I was you know what I say? I say I'm not getting stressed about this is no reason to be stressed. I'm gonna figure it out. I'm gonna figure it out. So I started I got back home I started looking for another babysitter, I started reaching out to family that I had around the area. That's what I started to do extra help.

Ashley Brown 16:42
Went from person to person to person. I was not about to stress about that. Because why stress, I'm not about to harm my mind, body and spirit for what? When it's actually a solution. I can work towards a solution. So reframe how you think about stressors. Your perspective drives, how you feel how you view something drives how you feel. So if you're feeling like something is bad, that's in your life, you don't feel bad. But if you're like, Oh, this is what it is, my child just got sick. I'm going to be out of work for two days. What can I do to get my work done? It totally changes how you feel? Then you feel proactive. You're like I'm actually proactive because I'm trying to work towards a solution versus oh my gosh, what's gonna happen? No, no, no, no, no. So that's another tip for you. And this is a huge one. reframe how you think about stressors. It just is what it is, is neutral. It's not bad.

Ashley Brown 17:45
Okay, so those are the three tips that can really help you to alleviate stress and overwhelm. Please put these in practice today. If you're stressed if you're feeling overwhelmed. specifically identify what is causing the stress. put a plan in place to address the stress. Make sure part of that plan is relieving physical stress moving your body, giving your body a release in some type of way. And then the last thing is to reframe how you are thinking about the stressors.

Ashley Brown 18:17
Okay, hopefully this was helpful for you. Today. I know that these things helped me in my life. I've shared this before with with women I've worked with and so they're really helpful tips if you practice and put them into place. Planners routine and things planners are back in stock September 25 wanted to make you aware of that yet again. This planner is the it merges planning and routines to strong and helpful organizational tools that will help you to stay organized and synergy they are magic. And so go check out the routine and things planner at routine and you can get on the list to know when they are back in stock to be the first to be notified when they are back in stock so that you can grab one we have a limited supply like always and so you will be able to get a routine and things planner if you are on the list. Like I say you can check it out and learn more about it at routine and for slash plan. But until next time, girl continue to enjoy wherever you are, whatever you're doing, stay happy and I will talk to you soon.

Ashley Brown 19:27
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